I’m an ENFJ.
According to Myer Briggs, my dichotomies are Extravert, Intuitive, Feeler, and Judging. Basically, I get energy from being around people. I also see possibilities and prone to trust my gut instinct when absorbing information. But, more importantly, I make decisions based on my feelings. ENFJs tend to value personal considerations above objective criteria.
Believe it or not, most women are Feelers in their personality:
Males: 70% thinker and 30% feeler
Females: 30% thinker and 70% feeler
source: http://www.themindbehind.net/mbti/assessment.html
Feelers are naturally nurturing and emphatic toward other people. Most Feelers become nurses, teachers or work in a career where they are helping people.
All of this sounds really nice, but can a Feeler also be tough as nails and objective in a business setting? Or do they get emotional when criticized and rather be your BFF rather than a boss?
Do you wear your heart on your sleeve?
Raise your hand if you are a Feeler and proudly show that heart on your sleeve….
From personal experience, I have a natural tendency to want to “mother” people and do take criticism personally. And, there are moments where I need to go to the bathroom to have a good cry after a stressful day at the office.
But, I can also push aside the Feeler aspects and adopt more Thinker strategies in handling business situations. There’s a great book that I recently read called Quiet: The Power of Introverts. The author, who is an introvert, discusses how an introvert’s strengths can be applied by anyone to be a better listener and participant of society. (Most thinkers are also found to be introverts in their personality).
One of the benefits of being a Feeler is passion. A Feeler puts their heart and soul (no pun intended) into their work or causes they care about. Feelers are very value-driven and believe in a set of values that they’ve adopted for themselves. In fact, you may have heard a Feeler say on more than one occasion “This isn’t fair!”
Feelers have capabilities to grow into good business leaders but it does take getting a handle on emotional reactions. Feelers have to make a conscious effort to take a step back and observe from a practical standpoint.
Can you identify who are the Feelers you work with on a regular basis?
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